The child with Emotional Intelligence.

SELF CONTROL, CALM AND BEING IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE.

When the mind is calm, when you feel good about yourself and there is little stress in your life, your working memory functions at its best.  This means that the child with EI will be able to use his IQ well and perform in exams and in other fields. EI helps a person and will help a child perform better in all spheres of life. Emotional intelligence will determine how a child uses his IQ. Parent, a child with emotional intelligence will improve in all spheres of functioning.

It is a parenting responsibility to coach your child to manage impulsive feelings and distressing emotions well. in early childhood already parents should talk about feelings, recognize feelings and teach them the marshmallow principle, help them to understand the benefit of waiting in order to get a better deal.

Parents must coach their children how to handle pain. A child must know that all won’t go well always. There will be disappointments and hurt. Friends will disappointment them. It is this strength that a child needs coaching in before they are teenagers.

PERSONAL POWER.

Emotional Intelligence goes hand in hand with personal power. As you help your child to mature emotionally help him to believe in himself. It is that belief that will give him personal power. As the child mature emotionally, she  will develop self-knowledge and non-aggressive self-assertiveness. These children will have the courage to take risks, to be unique, to be themselves and to love themselves and others.  They also have the endurance and resilience to see failures and problems as challenges or a learning process.

UNDISCOVERED ABILITIES AND RESOURCES.

EI will help your child discover more abilities and resources in himself or herself. This is when creativity blooms. The parent can help the child come to the belief that in him is an undiscovered genius and much undeveloped potential. The parent will take the pressure off performance and help the child that  he/she matters and not his/her performance.

LEAD YOUR CHILD TO CHRIST.

Kerry Southey visited our church a few months before her death. She told us that her children accepted the Lord at pre-school age. She also told us about a little one of three years old who spoke in tongues. Arnold Mol’s three children made a commitment before they were of school going age.

It is very easy to teach your children about God in their pre-school years. It is a time when they are very receptive.  Lay a foundation in them that they are loved and cared for by you their parent and also by our heavenly Father, who is a powerful God. You will be building a foundation of love in their lives by nurturing them. Christ, during his walk on earth, modeled all the abilities of a person with emotional intelligence.

EQ AND IQ

Research has shown that we have two brains: the old primitive part of the brain where emotions are centered and then the cortex, a huge mass of awesome processing power. The whole idea of emotional intelligence is to get these two parts to interact. Emotional intelligence is as important or even more important than IQ. The person with emotional intelligence will use his IQ correctly and to his own benefit. He will be able to function at peak performance and be successful in life. Emotional intelligence can be learnt and developed.   

CONCLUSION

The family forms the cornerstone of any community. Healthy families will ensure healthy communities. The family is the single most important factor in the moulding of a person. It prepares a child to reach for her/his ultimate potential and more important his God ordained destiny, or it cripples him to such an extent that his self-image is negative and he never reaches his destiny. Parents, this great responsibility rests on your shoulders. It is your responsibility to shape and train and prepare them. Take the challenge and assist your child to develop emotional intelligence, enabling him to reach his full potential. Love your child unconditionally. Have fun. Pray for your child.